Do I have the right to be sexually active?
A lot of people with disability have worries and anxiety about sex. All feelings are natural.
Society has many myths, and the ones around disability and sexuality are frustrating, offensive and incorrect, if they even mention. Some of these myths include that a person with a disability doesn’t need sex or can’t have ‘real sex’. Some other myths include that a person with a disability has more important needs than sex, or should not have children.
Society has standards that all of us need to satisfy; who doesn’t meet the standard can feel diminished or unseen.
Those myths can and usually affects our attitudes and it is not hard to believe in them.
Because of misinformation you can believe you don’t deserve to enjoy in sex, have orgasm or you can start avoid sex.
Your disability may affect your ability to have sex life like many people has– you may have to approach sexual activity differently, and you may have questions and concerns relating to your physical or emotional health. It’s natural to feel frustrated about the effects of your disability on your sex life. It may help to try to accept that you and your partner may have to approach sex differently and find new or different ways to satisfy each other. Creativity and innovation can bring you closer and make bond even stronger.
If your body doesn’t always do the things its ‘supposed to’ people may assume that you don’t have any sexual thoughts or feelings. But the biggest sexual organ in your body is… oh…your brain!
Everybody has the right to love and be loved. To experiment, enjoy in sexual activities and feel attractive.
For any concerns you have, feel free to ask your doctor, or psychotherapist if your fears are beyond your physical state.
By Andrea Nenadic, Psychotherapist and Social Worker