Job search and how to deal with psychological consequences
Looking for a job can be draining, frustrating, especially if you are person with disability.
There are couple misconceptions that make this process even more demanding.
First, we believe that getting job it should be easy and fast.
Second, it must there be wrong something with me if job offers don’t fall out from the sky.
The last, if I am rejected, or I don’t even get feedback, for sure my CV is terrible, my skills and knowledge doesn’t mean anything.
The truth is that employment market is fast, competitive and a lot of people is looking for a job or changing the existing one.
Dealing emotionally with every day search, excitement and disappointment can influence to your mental health, but also to your job search.
Learning mechanism to cope with job search stress can help you stay consistent and faithful.
You are not your job
Of course professional fulfillment is important and it represent one part of our lives where we prove ourselves and identities. But your career doesn’t represent you. Recognition of your identity is made up from experiences, values, interests, and other parts of your life can give you confidence and enjoyment.
You can’t find job because you are person with disability
Same as above, your identity is not your disability. You are person with capacities, strengths, support and your disability doesn’t shape how you are successful in your job. Try not to generalized, out there are so many employers and probability that no one wants to employee person with disability is zero.
Have a structure and be organized
Create time during the day while you will check for job opportunities. Put a limit, for example, I will be doing online search until 5pm. Not throughout all day and especially not through the night. Give yourself time for rest, exercising, meeting people and everything that makes you take care of yourself. You will be more self-efficient. Don’t let job search controls your life.
Give yourself time for rest
Many interviews daily can look as a good option, but it can bring you to a stage where you feel overwhelmed and burned out. It is absolutely fine to give yourself time for recovering. During this period you can rebuilt your capacities and increase energy level. You may put different priorities or doing something for job search. Learning new skills or set the dates to meet with others who are looking for a job also, or find mentor.
Meet yourself better
Knowing exactly what triggers you, after which kind of interview you feel overwhelmed, can help you creating new coping mechanisms and create supportive surroundings to help you feel better. For example if the silence after interview makes you drained and you want to quit, maybe you can ask interviewer when you can expect the answer.
The road to getting a job sometimes can look endless. But, don’t forget, keeping yourself healthy both physically and mentally in the process is a long-term investment.
By Andrea Nenadic, Psychotherapist and Social Worker